Wednesday, September 30

HNT Boobiethon 2!

Boobie-thon begins today.
It will run until the 7th.
I thought I'd use this opportunity to do my part to support the cause.

The click-through is the picture I took for Evening when she was going through her battle.

My first Boobie-Thon.

Next week I'll be back with more boots for Fall.
Until then See the Man, Osbasso!

Monday, September 28

The Rain

Tonight I sat with the french doors open and listened to the sound of the rain.
I lit candles around the room and turned on the stereo.

Fade Into You by Mazzy Star was playing softly.
I want to hold the hand inside you
I want to take a breath thats true

I poured a glass of wine and settled down into the couch to listen, pulling my throw blanket up close. The turbulance of the last week has left me feeling drained. And although I can still feel the brush of your lips on my mouth I feel lonely. Disconnected.

I look to you and I see nothing
I look to you to see the truth

There's something comforting in the sound of rain. It takes me to a place of peace. A place where I feel more myself. I've always found comfort in water, the sound of it. Whether it's the crash of angry waves against a rocky shore or the bubbling rush of a hidden spring, I feel it inside me. A soothing re-connection with my metaphysical soul, as if I am merely a simulacrum of a woman, lost without my pelagic spirit.

Fade into you
I think its strange you never knew

I drank my wine and listened to the rain drops beat their own particular rhythm on the flagstones of the patio outside.

Tomorrow I think. Tomorrow we'll be better. We'll let the rain wash away the past and begin again.

    Thursday, September 24

    Thank You

    My first article for Blogcritics, 'Broken House - A Look at Life One Year After Foreclosure' has been selected as an *Editors Pick*. Let me say this quickly, before Kanye West takes the mic from me. I'd just like to thank my family and the fans...

    Tuesday, September 22


    A man has only one escape from his old self: to see a different self in the mirror of some woman's eyes.
    Claire Booth Luce

    Isn't that what we all strive for?
    To be seen by our lover as a better person than we see ourselves?
    We hope that they can look beyond all of those idiosyncrasies, those things we cannot abide in ourselves, and see instead the person we wish to be. That they may help us become more like that which we desire to be.

    So why does it always seem that women get the short end of this stick? That we are supposed to tolerate constant comparisons to embryonic twits that leave us only more ambiguous, more fearful to gaze at ourselves? Smaller, diminished in some way, in order to keep him happy? While he grows and blossoms under our loving touch.

    De Beauvoir --I think?-- says that it's women only that possess the amazing power of reflecting a man's image back to him doubled in size...
    and only half of her own.

    That's how I am feeling today.
    Half of myself.
    The least important half of a happy couple.
    My first instinct is to beat myself up for feeling this way. Some form of my vicious hatred of self pity. If you know me at all you know that I don't tolerate antagonism well. Yes, not one of my better qualities. I do not suffer fools either. And if you want to go rounds with me you'd better do it wearing armor because I like to fight. I didn't come by my former name accidently. I earned it.

    And so my first instinct is to lash out when I'm feeling any form of self-loathing. Lash at myself, lash at anyone within scratching distance. Never unjustly though - it does take a lot to piss me off.

    But protecting loved ones is one point where I never hesitate - and my wrath is awesome. But with every drop of blood drawn I become less. And he grows. I swear love is leeching. It sucks the blood from my very veins sometimes. I give my strength and once given it can never be restored. That part gone.

    And would he prefer that? To see his lover diminished? No. That's what he finds attractive. So when she has drained her very spirit for him he looks upon her as weak. And he must look for someone new and vibrant. Someone to feed the appetite of a strong man like himself.

    I find it sickening.
    And gross.

    And I will staunch that flow and restore myself.
    No one may take from me and I have no need.

    Monday, September 21

    Going Pink For October

    When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something's suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful.
    ~Barbara Bloom

    That time is almost upon us again.

    Are you ready to Go Pink in October to show your support for breast cancer awareness month?

    The Pink For October site is down, but that doesn't mean that we can't still show our support by decorating our blogs in Pink, carrying the Pink Ribbon and adding the button to click for free mammograms.

    Here are the buttons and link if you need to copy them.
    click to give
    Click For Free Mammograms

    The Breast Cancer Site

    The link is

    I still have the free pink blogger templates to download -- or just to look at for inspiration.

    Here they are:
    Here are the Pink For October Free Blogger Templates.
    Email me if you need help.

    Here are the zip files to download these templates.

    If you just want to make an easy switch I'll be adding some of the hex color codes so you can just change your background color to pink.

    Do you have a breast cancer story?
    Please feel free to share.
    These are the stories that inspire and empower us all in our Race for the Cure.

    Thursday, September 17

    Sarong Song HNT

    Lecram wanted to see us in our sarongs.

    Charlotte Russe Boots
    (All photos ©Tricia.Weight-->gmail)

    There are several different ways to wear a sarong. Tied around your waist or tied around your breasts. My favorite is criss-crossed at the top and tied behind my neck.

    For me, with my boot fetish, I decided to wear my mid-calve boots with one of my sarongs.

    Just goes to show you that there are no rules. And you can wear a sarong in the Fall with a sweater and boots. They look great together!

    Charlotte Russe Suede Boots

    This goes along with AnotherSuburbanMom's idea to highlight what we think are our best features. For me it's my legs. I do like my legs.

    And here's some inspiration for your boot fetish.
    Shakira Objection Tango.

    That should whet your imagination for what you can wear with your boots this Fall.
    A short skirt with a shawl tied around your waist and a pair of over the knee boots is really hot! Maybe next week?

    The boots are from Charlotte Russe.
    The HNT is from Osbasso.

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    Wednesday, September 16

    Free Pink Templates for October

    Pink For October
    It's about that time. Breast cancer awareness is almost upon us.
    Are you Going Pink For October?
    Are you ready to learn how to revert your blog to old / classic blogger?
    And how to switch back to new blogger as well?
    You'll need to know how to back-up your blogger template.
    The process is really quite easy, but it does take a lot of copy /paste if you're used to using blogger widgets.

    I'd advise starting a 'template_test' blog so you can practice before going live on your home blog.

    I'm starting to work on some new additions to the free 'going pink for October' blogger templates. I have to make some corrections to the old templates as well. Some are not working in Mozilla as they should.

    You'll see the templates move up on the sidebar as we get closer to the date.
    And as always, I'm happy to help anyone who needs it, whether you're using one of my templates or another you've found elsewhere.

    Boobiethon 2009
    October 1st-7th
    And it's time to start thinking about your Boobiethon pictures. Bloggers baring it all to save the bOObs.
    You can see some of last years submissions in the Boobie Gallery.
    Don't forget to send out your Boobiethon Tweets.
    Remember: It's for a good cause.

    Here's the HNT I did with my daughter on Breast Exams. The Greatest Gift. It's important to teach them yourself. You're the only one who can really show them correctly.

    Here's a way to waste 5 minutes.
    A 41 Question Personality Test from
    My Personality Test results.

    Personality Test

    Not at all accurate, and yet... completely accurate.
    Much like my horoscope in the newspaper.
    If you take the test make sure you post your results in the comments. I'm more interested in others than in myself as my results clearly show.

    Saturday, September 12

    Body Perception

    Diet Photo

    When AnotherSuburbanMom suggested we post our flaws on HNT I thought it was a brilliant idea.
    I posted my belly picture. The part of my body that I see as 'flawed'.

    I also read the posts from a lot of other bloggers on what they consider to be their flawed parts. Many of those posts had to do with dieting. The desire to lose weight.

    I had written a post back in 2005 when I had finally reached my dietary goal.
    A celebration. But I did take the post down after talking with a friend about how I had managed to kick those last pounds. I had gone to the extreme of an almost entirely liquid diet. A diet that was extremely high in sodium and not healthy at all. A diet of desperation.

    I took the post down when a friend suggested that others might follow my lead and harm themselves in the process. That was something that I hadn't considered. It was bad advice. It had to go.

    But the post that I did on Thursday made me start thinking about the battle I've had with my belly. The picture above is from the original post I had written about my weight loss. As you can see the belly battle began there. I had lost the weight, and my belly was actually very toned. But there were still pockets of flesh that no amount of exercise could erase.

    I've actually put some weight back on intentionally. The goal I had set for my weight was not a good weight for my figure. I just didn't look 'right'. My belly did start to look much more normal when I put some weight back on. Not perfect by any means and still 'flawed' in my eyes. But I've learned to live with it.

    This is a cautionary tale for all those who think that a certain 'weight' is desirable. We listen too much to Hollywood. We let them instill in us what we should consider normal, or acceptable.

    I'm here to tell you that it's not realistic to believe that Demi has never had plastic surgery. And it is okay to get a tummy tuck if you want one. Wanting to feel good. Wanting to feel desirable and sexy is fine.

    It's your body.
    It's your happiness.
    Own it.

    Tuesday, September 1

    Remembering Ted Kennedy

    My mother once met Ted Kennedy on a flight to NY.

    She called me when she landed and said 'guess who I was just on an airplane with?' It was so cute. Considering everyone she had worked with in the music business that was the first time I ever heard her sound like she had just met a rock star.

    It's sad to lose him at a time when he was still so passionately involved in the current issues and when he still had so much work to do. Nancy Reagan had some wonderful things to say about him, which I think is rather appropriate and very telling about the true spirit of the man. He did defeat Reagan's attempts to reverse his personal labor of love, the Civil Rights Act, that polarizing issue that got Reagan elected in the first place (and that still seems to be at the heart of the animosity between the 2 parties almost 30 years later).

    Regardless of how far we have come in our fight to make this country truly equal for all of its citizens, the fact is that there is still fear of racial equality being dramatically served up to the masses and a portion of the population who want to believe it and who thrive on drama and reactionaryism) and yet he never allowed politics to prevent him from being there when his support was needed.

    I worry now about who will take his place. Whether you loved him or hated him it cannot be denied that he was the embodiment of pertinacity. He never gave up when he thought a cause was worthy and he had no fear of taking heat. His outspoken opinions and his willingness to fight the long battles made him a key component in keeping a certain equalibrium when the scales were tipped dangerously close to Orwellian paranoia. He was never politically correct, yet he was correct in his politics. All Americans should have a voice in our political system, and when they did not he could be counted upon to be their voice. And he would never back down in the face of attack.

    No matter what personal faults and flaws he had as a man, he truly was a man of the people. All people.

    "Yes, we are all Americans. This is what we do. We reach the moon. We scale the heights. I know it. I've seen it. I've lived it. And we can do it again."
    --Democratic National Convention, August 2008

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